In order to walk one must crawl, For work on all universally etc...

Without self knowledge, without understanding the working and functions of his machine, man cannot be free, he cannot govern himself and he will always remain a slave.

For exact understanding exact language is needed.

A man may be born, but in order to be born he must first die, and in order to die he must first awake.
--------------------------------------
Upadana means clinging and who among us does not know clinging
intimately? A child clings to its mother when it feels afraid. Some couples
cling to each other because they are afraid of being alone. In psychological
jargon, this is called codependency. Clinging is craving intensified. When
the road that began with avijja ends at the ninth nidana, another round of

Addiction is another word for clinging and clinging is another word
for addiction. From addiction to food, pot or pornography, the child in us
clings to a self-soothing object. Strangely enough, we even cling to objects
or people that we despise. Many people are trapped in a perpetual state of
anger years after their lover betrayed them or their parents failed them.
How many people are caught in a visceral hatred for an opposing political
belief? This is total clinging. Craving puts the object within close reach but
clinging is the grasp, the absolute conviction that “this is mine. I am this.”
It is what Gurdjieff calls crystallization. Through the unconscious process
of identification, the ego mirrors and then becomes the object: “I am my
body” is clinging. “I am a victim” is clinging. “I hate her; I need him” are
both examples of clinging. The seer has become the seen.

Joseph Goldstein reminds us that the very foundation of our
mindfulness practice is to acknowledge this is suffering or dissatisfaction
and identify what it is that we cling to, moment by moment. Then, let it go.
That moment of letting it go is a moment of freedom.
------------------------------------------------------------

In light of this, with a helpful guide, not proclaimed teacher, slowly letting go of everything. Personally I cling to the "past" what was and is no longer. It's amazing how beautiful it is to "let go" of all of those things.

No Projection, preaching, identification, expectations all these things must be let go of...

This is the difficult way. "Work work work work work work work work work work, don't whine" as an old professor recently said.