"In sleep, you do not know whether you are a man or a woman," he said. Just as a man, impersonating a woman, does not become one, so the soul, impersonating both man and woman, remains changeless. The soul is the immutable, unqualified image of God."
Sri Yukteswar never avoided or blamed women as the cause of "man's downfall." He pointed out that women, too, have to face temptation from the opposite sex. I once asked Master why a great saint had called women "the door to hell."
"A girl must have proved very troublesome to his peace of mind in his early life," my guru answered caustically. "Otherwise he would have denounced, not woman, but some imperfection in his own self-control."
(page 148)
2 comments:
Nice post. There is so much division when it comes to sex these days. Sadly, women tend to get blamed for "misconduct", whatever that means, when we do exercise our human ability of simple attraction. Men are just as guilty, but the real question is if we act upon that attraction/temptation etc?... There is no REAL division, just one created by society. And if we let society decide for us then we will always be disappointed, (a pure expectation, already off track)and the "gentler" sex will always be blamed.
I think it's always good to think about everyone involved before acting, not identifying, but more or less saying, "Well, damn he is so hot, but he's married, or this type of thing would only lead to pain." Go to the real truth at the heart of the situation and trust your red flags, they are there for a reason. Here's another tip; When you think of "falling in love", or being "in love" with someone try to completely take yourself out of the picture. This is very hard and will expose an emptiness within yourself, more than likely. We all deal with it. In other words, try loving a person as a completely separate being without judgements, ideas, expectations etc... Empty your mind and live in the present moment.
Adding...It's not about being "monk", but really taking responsibility for actions and everyone involved. How will this impact me? Am I trying to fill something missing in my life? And what about him/her? Maybe I should talk about this with them.
I'm not saying don't be spontaneous, but I believe that once you've crossed the bridge onto higher aims, you can't act blindly anymore. Doing so is lying to yourself, you create another hole, another issue and it all just keeps piling up. Instead of trying to sort through the mess, you've just made it worse for you and everyone involved.
Remember, Struggle is not the same thing as suffering.
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